Somewhere over the rainbow

I just accidentally deleted a big long piece I wrote about my tabby cat who I left at the Clinic earlier this afternoon. I walked into the building with him and walked home with an empty carrier. It contained a green and white cat towel and a stuffed white buffalo, which I sleep with and I took because it smells like me, like us. My Marbles, Mr. Marbles actually, but mainly Marbles or Marble-yyy, sometimes doo-doo or hunny-bunny. A man of many names and a huge soul, and even louder voice. I loved that about him though, you never wondered where he stood on an issue. Honestly, in that tiny body housed a massive and magnanimous spirit, one that saved me from so very many things over the fifteen years we lived together.

I feel tired, relieved, uncertain, guilty, and grateful. Grateful for that little boy who always showed up for me, who bloomed with life and love in ways that always made me smile, sometimes swear, but mainly adore him. I also feel in awe of him, his strength to hang on through his many health issues and to also hang on for me. That’s what animals often do, they sacrifice themselves for our benefit. They are so wise and giving; he was so graceful and composed in his passing. I marvel at Marbles, who loved me fiercely for fifteen years and I him, along with my other two boys Rama/Rammy and Shiva/Shivy. My Tabby trio that I grew to depend upon for things I didn’t even realize I needed from them, mainly unconditional love and being present. Cats can teach us so very much and most of them want in, into our lives and into our hearts too. That is where they all are for me, so deep no ink will spill their names. No tattoo is needed for these boys of mine, whose little souls are already tucked away in my heart so deep no extra colour or linework is needed. They are in me. 

But, how to live with just one? I’ve never done that on my own, always had two or three. I have no clue and in preparation for this eventual moment I write. I wrote yesterday and I do it today. I write to cope and to sooth myself, for words are a balm unlike any other. Into the writer and into a place where I am safe, creative, engaged…But I’m without my Marbles. One less dish on the floor, no more meds to buy and agonize over, no more jealous ego to soothe from the couch or the floor where he’d always be close, so close to me. When thinking about this day I knew I had to write something about love, for obvious reasons but also to push myself. Love is the medium of life and it is spread across countless tablets, papyrus scrolls, church walls, pressed books and the plastic screens we call progress. Love is the most ancient of quandaries and soul foods. How to talk about it in a way that is not only original, but does justice to my departed boy? I try here.

 

What is love- for Marbles

Describing love is like trying to eat smoke with a knife and a fork

Its enormity exceeds our blunt tools of digestion and language

Love fills the capillaries that feed and clear the heart’s chambers of its warm blood

Flooding the body with its steady pulse as we breathe

We pull at it like the magician’s scarf

Revealing, marking, hiding life’s events

Love lives beyond the flesh, in memory and in forgetting

It shifts shape from person to thing to impulse to pooled reservoir

Of the soul and there we learn that it can be anything

We can make love whatever we like, which is part of its power

And our destiny, little one

Mr. Marbles from Winnipeg, who I’ve been blessed to know since 2005

Love lives in our shared gift

I picked you and you were not easy, nor was I in our early years

But you stayed because we needed each other

Even now as you rest, like a shrunken ball of bones and grateful essence

You feed me like the air that runs through my hurting heart

 

 

 

 

5 thoughts on “Somewhere over the rainbow

  1. Dearest Treena, and dear Marbles (although I did not know you personally I feel like I had met you through your mommy). I feel for you, I know how hard this is and how many emotions fill your hear and your home right now. So hard to let go of our furry babies. I can only give you an ear to talk to if you need to, send me a message at any time. Hold tight to the memories, hold tight to your other baby, together it will make it a bit more bearable. Your words show us how deep and pure your love for each other was.
    Hugs dear.

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  2. Treena,
    I continue to enjoy your posts and really wanted to extend my condolences to you re Mr Marbles. Unless one lives with and loves pets, you can’t know how inextricably linked to us, loved by us, and needed by us they are. Years ago, I did an academic paper on a Canadian journalist, Lou Marsh. Like you, Marsh wrote unvarnished and penned his “pick and shovel” column daily for almost 40 years. I still remember a lot of the phrases, poems, expressions, and stories he told; most vividly, I remember a full column he wrote the day his dog, ‘Bubs’ died and by the end of reading that column, I felt like I knew Bubs and was deeply sorry for his loss to the world. Haven’t felt that kind of grief-empathy in a written piece again until I read about Mr Marbles’ passing. And your attempts to put love into words were impressive. Thanks for sharing…
    don

    From: “Sticky, Sexy, Sad”
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    Date: Wednesday, October 31, 2018 at 6:38 PM
    To: Don Morrow
    Subject: [New post] Somewhere over the rainbow

    treenaorchard posted: “I just deleted a big long piece I wrote about my tabby cat who I left at the Clinic earlier this afternoon. I walked into the building with him and walked home with an empty carrier that contained a green and white cat towel and a stuffed white buffalo, w”

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  3. don,

    i’m glad that you’re able to glean a bit of who that wild and fabulous, and DEmanding guy was. Marbles. i’ve approved the comment on the site but it takes a while to appear for some reason; just getting used to it all, but i like it. i love words and trying to use them in real, evocative ways. feeling rather still today, not going to get up to much except situps in a little while and some other stretches, then Rocky Horror in Stratford with my yoga friends.

    i love that you take the time to tell me how the work is impacting you, thank you

    xoo treena

    Treena Orchard, Ph.D.

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