I’m moving + I hope you’ll come with me!

Dear Sticky, Sexy, Sad followers and friends This blog has been such an adventure – and I promise it’s not over yet. However, while penning these articles I realize that I want to share my experiences about more than Bumble.   So, I’m expanding my writerly, reflexive journey on my new website. Here, I can share…

Quill as Trench Coat: Writing as a Way to Uncover Secrets about Dating, Men & Myself

Mea Culpa about the delay...Happy 2020 tho :); it feels like a good year, a good beginning. I was working on a story for publication last month, trying to get a handle on what to focus on. To help, the editor asked me a few questions about my process and some of the emotional and…

Bumble Basics: Retrospective Reflection from An Anthropologist

I spent five months inside the Bumble hive and write about these torrid experiences from the perspective of an anthropologist who studies sexuality and a woman trying to date. I found the Bumbleverse a tough place to break into in a meaningful way. The preference for messages over meeting was one of the perplexing observations…

Not a hexagon, but a circle – determining the meaning of the spheres in Bumble’s hive.

When I was learning how to use Bumble, I quickly became familiar with the meaning of the little circles that swooped around the many faces of my matches. The 50 shades of swiping are associated with different categories of matches, and they provide hints for how to play this dating game: Yellow means you’ve made…

The puzzling case of men’s online dating profiles

Wild, wonderful and absolutely bizarre – that’s how my book begins its explanation of the profiles I encountered during my five months on Bumble. A picture may be worth a thousand words, but trying to figure out what my male counterparts’ pictures were portraying was more difficult than locating non-abstract facial features in a Picasso.…