Not a hexagon, but a circle – determining the meaning of the spheres in Bumble’s hive.

When I was learning how to use Bumble, I quickly became familiar with the meaning of the little circles that swooped around the many faces of my matches. The 50 shades of swiping are associated with different categories of matches, and they provide hints for how to play this dating game: Yellow means you’ve made…

The puzzling case of men’s online dating profiles

Wild, wonderful and absolutely bizarre – that’s how my book begins its explanation of the profiles I encountered during my five months on Bumble. A picture may be worth a thousand words, but trying to figure out what my male counterparts’ pictures were portraying was more difficult than locating non-abstract facial features in a Picasso.…

Has swiping made dating too spooky for the sentimental?

In a previous blog, I left off with some reflections about how being "ghosted" on Bumble made me feel. It's difficult to apply hard and fast rules to the disappearance of my matches on Bumble: not only because there never seemed to be any pattern in the process, but also because my post-ghosting feelings changed…

The Looking Glass: Reflecting on Relationships

I’ve experienced frenzied feelings about men and myself: lust, anger, confusion, little bits of love, resolve, excitement, sadness, wanton desire. I want someone to have the emotional capital and heart to meet me where I’m at. I’m weary of being honoured for my appearance, my work, and sometimes my intellect. These things are easy to…

In the land of love and honey, there appears to be more ghosts than bees.

Can you imagine in the “good old days,” meeting someone, making plans to get together at a set date and time, and then just not showing up? If that concept seems overly foreign to you, ask a relative in their late twenties or thirties to describe the normative dating rituals of yesteryear. I can almost…