When traffic is slow or at a virtual crawl on Tinder, as seems to be the case for me right now, there are several options. One is to feel like crap about myself (been there, not worth it- it’s not about me usually). Another is to play harder or lower my standards (been there, not…
Why agate?
Like many of us, I'm drawn to the wisdom and guidance provided by the earth and its endlessly treasures. This includes gemstones and crystals and pearls, so luminescent and ethereal. When I knew the phone call needed to be made for Mr. Marbles I instinctively reached for a piece of agate I picked up last…
Somewhere over the rainbow
I just accidentally deleted a big long piece I wrote about my tabby cat who I left at the Clinic earlier this afternoon. I walked into the building with him and walked home with an empty carrier. It contained a green and white cat towel and a stuffed white buffalo, which I sleep with and…
A Graveyard Smash
In her work on vulnerability and the self, Margrit Shildrick uses the idea of the 'monster' to explore how we learn to know ourselves. We often do this in relation to other people and/or the idea of the 'other.' In this instance, the monster: something we shy away from, something we cast as entirely different…
Saturday
For many of us, Saturday is the only true day of the week-end. This is because we head into the following day knowing that tomorrow is Monday, back to work or the beginning of a new week. I find it somewhat challenging to decide what to do on Saturdays given my predilection for working on…
“It’s just a joke”
The book I'm working on focuses on Bumble because it was such a formative set of experiences, I was very dutiful about recording the minutia of those experiences, and its design as a 'feminist' dating app produced unique outcomes that deserve their own story. Feminist you say...Yes, that's how it is sold because of its…
A Special Boy Turns Five
A boy was born five years ago today who radically and magically reshuffled, restored, and revitalized each of our lives and our family as a collective. That boy is Kane who was born with six toes and many special gifts. "Extra gene power" I said excitedly when Kelly texted me from the hospital, telling me…
To Build a Kingdom
Over the past year I've been working on a project that has morphed from scattered writings about a wild, troubling series of socio-sexual experiences to a memoir about said experiences. Friends, colleagues, students, and strangers ('cause when I'm excited about something, everybody learns about it!) have helped me make sense of it, answered and asked…
The Directions of Love
I saw A Star is Born last night or should I say experienced it. The performances in the film were arresting in their emotional rawness and psychological complexity. How people can dig that deep and perform these heart-wrenching things, all with a camera and scores of people just feet away is astounding. I'm not sure…
Flash Non-Fiction- The Challenge
Good Monday Morning! Here's a piece I wrote a couple of years ago, my first foray into Flash Non-Fiction. It's a really exciting and accessible genre that focuses on crystallizing ideas, images, plotlines into their most pared down form. Most Flash pieces are under 1,000 words and they can run as brief as 25 words!…
Sticky, Sexy, Sad 